Monday, October 3, 2016

Milwaukee fashion week 2016: Halloween Fashion Collection Release


Bark River Photography
Model:April Adams

This year I released a new 10-piece fashion collection for Milwaukee Fashion Week. I show cased a Halloween/Witchy themed two piece outfits with crop tops/bralets and elastic skirts with triangle shaped panels in various Halloween prints around in two layers and a thin tutu underneath.  Last year I released a collection with a Dark Lolita theme, however, I was not able to get everything I wanted to make the look turn out the way I planned. So a few components were missing and I was working in things right up until show night. It was kind of crazy and stressful. But, after seeing my designs on the runway for the first time and walking down the runway for the first time as a Fashion Designer instead of a model felt right. 

 Hawk Photography
Model:Delaney Mann

That’s when I started taking myself more seriously as an artist and working Fashion Designer. I started Rain’s Wonderland in 2012, but I listed things on Etsy on and off and never really took it seriously as a business. But due to a series of events I started to take myself and my work more seriously and get things rolling. In August of 2015 I started vending at local craft fairs monthly as much as possible and seeing my business grow from there. 

 Hawk Photos
Model: Gabrielle Follete

I started with Jewelry and accessories and I am gradually starting to add more clothing collections to my work too. This Halloween collection is the first of many projects I wish to work on in my creative journey.  I won’t be working on any new fashion collections anytime soon. Maybe towards the beginning of next year. But no two collections will ever be exactly the same. I have so many themes and inspirations to work on. And to prepare for the Halloween/Holiday season. I will keep you all posted on new projects as they come along. 

 Hawk Photography
Model: Kim Kimberly

This years fashion show was fun, I got to meet so many new people and see familiar faces, and no two experiences are ever the same. I truly Thank everyone involved in preparing and planning the show again. I look forward to doing it again next year and maybe look into doing some more fashion shows locally as well. 

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Model: Kim

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Model: Holland Huron
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Model: Nicolle Falk

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Model: Jade Rock


Goth Dating Problems: Why Goth's Don't date Non-Goth's


There are huge issues of acceptance in the subculture. Lots of people like the style from a far but don’t understand or respect the people in it. In my personal experience when I’ve tried to date former friends who weren’t Goth or guys in general. It has been and continues to be a repetitive problem. People love the way I look, dress, do my hair and makeup, they love to see me out on the town, or hanging out, and pictures  from my photo shoots, but it still will not click to them that it’s the real me. When I see some people outside of the local Goth/Alt/Industrial club scene and not much is different, I receive comments like “oooh, I didn’t know you actually dressed like that, I thought that’s just what you wore for clubbing or (insert blank here).”  The list goes on and on. I thought you were like that in order  to:
-Sell your Art
-Impress other Goths
-Just for Modeling
-For Halloween
-For a Costume party
-Going to a concert or festival or event
-Rebel against your family
-On drugs
-Has serious emotional and other mental health problems and overall disturbed individual
- You were depressed
-Just a phase
-Just a thing you did as a teenager

·         Appreciation
People may leave you to your own devices as friends to a certain extent. But when it comes to dating they have something to say about your lifestyle preferences. Suddenly they want you to stop doing all of the things you love that makes you who you truly are.
“I don’t like girls that wear makeup, I noticed you wear a lot of it, If/when we start dating can you stop wearing makeup or just not wear any around me?”
“ Can’t you just wear some color once”
·         Manipulation
People like to try and tell you that by changing other aspects of yourself which does nothing to hurt anyone is for your own good. As if they are the only ones who will ever be with someone like you, you’re lucky to have them, and if you don’t do what they say you’ll lose them. And will in the end just hurt yourself more in the long run. It’s a lot of narcissism that goes into this mentality and it happens all to often. Things may start off well, but slowly but surely over a period of weeks, months, or even years you’ll start to pick up on red flags here and there. Then as time passes by you’ll begin to notice a huge difference and you’ll be in too deep and it may be too late to turn back if you are put into a position of little to no power. By isolating you from you friends and family, moving you into the middle of no where, discouraging you from doing the things you love even on your own time, etc. Manipulation comes in all shapes and forms. It’s not always recognizable on the first date or in the first few years of dating. They’ll say things like,

-“ If you really love me, you’ll wear something colorful and push through feeling uncomfortable for me.”
-“ Can you please wear white for our wedding day? It’ll make me so happy”
- “ Can you take out your piercings to meet my friends and family?”
-“ Can you cover or remove your tattoos for me? I think you’d look so much prettier without them, you don’t need them to be beautiful for me.”
-“ I don’t like Goth Clothing, can you stop wearing them? I’d be more than happy to take you shopping for something pink and fluffy.”

They may do passive aggressive things like ever so obviously hint at tattoo removal places, send you articles about nerve damage from piercings, crappy internet articles expressing “concern” for loved ones who express themselves in a dark or alternative ways, hide your clothing and replace them with colorful things, etc. 

·         Protection
People assume Goths and Alternative people are freaks and into kinky things. They say and do all sorts of things that make us role our eyes. I personally do not want to have to try and explain a whole entire subculture and lifestyle to someone out side of the scene.  All about do’s and dont's and rights and wrongs of the whole thing. When strangers ask me on the street, I can explain certain things to them briefly, but ultimately I end up referring them to my blog and Youtube channel where I have already answered some of those same questions. And even at times referring them to other bloggers and writers who explain them a lot better than I ever could. That’s a huge chunk of my life that I’d have to explain to someone I’m dating all the time on top of everyone else. So it saves me a lot of time and energy by not.

Also because most of my experiences in this area happen to be negative, I have the right to be suspicious about some people in different ways. What if he lost a bet, what if that person is just trying to piss off their ex or their parents, or thinks I’m going to fulfill some sort of kinky fetish for them, or whatever. No Thank you.
·         Misconceptions about the Subculture
-There are all kinds of misconceptions and assumptions about people in the subculture
-Goth is a not a religion
-You don’t have to be Atheist or Pagan
-You don’t have to dress or look the part at all
-Goth is an umbrella turn for a wide range of music, art, literature, fashion styles, etc
-Depression is a medical problem that all people of all walks of life face
-No I’m not wearing all black waiting for some fuck boy to “turn me on to color”
-I don’t like negative attention no one does, it’s apart of the territory and everyone on some level has to deal with it regardless of who they are or what they wear.

·         Fetishizing of Alternative people
-Vampirism is an actual religion and some may choose to participate in it. Not all Goths or Alternative people are apart of this.
-Yes some people are kinky but that doesn’t mean they want to be with you.
-Goths and Alternative people are not boxes to check off in terms of types of people you’ve slept with. No one is.
·         Race
In my personal experience I feel that it’s more socially accectable to be Goth/Alt and white it is to be a person of color. Expecially within the African-American community. People assume you are self hating and trying to be white because you look different and like different music and you surround yourself with like minded people of all races and and cultures. A lot of people don’t believe me when I say I don’t like rap, hip hop, or R&B music. I don’t like talking with a lot of slang, I don’t care much for name brands such as Echo Red, Tommy Hillfiger, Apple Bottom, etc. I don’t fit into the stereotypes of what people expect a Black women in America to look like, act like, dress like, etc. I’m often seen as a “poser”, a “fake”, or something else entirely. People assume I’m from another country or I grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood, that I’m lost of don’t have a sense of identity on my own or whatever. 

·         Micro-Aggressions and Teasing
People, even loved ones in general tend to lightly poke fun at each other and that’s normal. But there comes a certain point when people should realize there are certain lines that shouldn’t be crossed and certain things just aren’t funny. They are ignorant and hurtful and even when they see that it bothers you they continue to do it. The Halloween jokes, the  Goth jokes, the wise cracks about wearing all black, and so much more. Sometimes your partner can cross that line and gone unchecked it’ll continue to grow more and more out of hand. And when you do check them of behavior that’s not okay it leads to victim blaming and bashing and can make things worst. Sometimes your partner will be fine but their friends or family may say or do something harmful and your partner may fail to check it and tell you to “relax” , “it’s no big deal, “ “it’s just a joke…” And that can lead to further tension in your relationship.

I have never had a serious relationship with someone who wasn’t Goth or Alternative. I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years now. These are the reason why some people may choose not to date outside of the scene. And these are my experiences. Yes, it is completely possible to find someone outside of the subculture who is kind and an overall good partner to be with and you can be happy together. I am not saying it’s not possible or that if you find someone you like outside of the scene you shouldn’t give it a chance. Just that when someone says that don’t date non-Goths or non-Alternative people. Please keep these points in mind about the experiences that person has had to deal with over time. They may not be an elitist, or discriminating against people based on subculture or lack there of. They may just be more protective of themselves, well-being, and energy and may not want to deal with situations and circumstances dealt with before.